Asalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu!
Backbiting is a major sin in Islam, and Muslims are well-aware of its prohibition yet it is highly prevalent in the society. This sin should be avoided throughout the year but we should be extra careful to avoid it during Ramadan. In Ramadan, we strive to attain taqwa, offer voluntary prayers, and do good deeds but sometimes amidst all that, we fall a prey to our nafs unconsciously and commit grave sins like backbiting, gossiping and slandering.
Now here are some tips on how to avoid these sins :
1. Sincere intention and determination
First of all, it is very important to identify backbiting, gossiping and slandering as grave sins. Repent and make sincere intention to avoid them in all conditions. Pray to Allah, Subhanahu Wa Taala, to help you stay away from these sins.
2. Practice ** Think before you speak **
I practice this quite successfully Allhamdulillah and it works so well. Everytime you are about to say something, think if it serves a good purpose, if not then it is best to remain silent.
On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, the Prophet Muhammad Sallellahu Alleihi Wassallam said,
” Let whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day either speak good or remain silent”. ( Bukhari, Muslim)
3. Cut down on your telephone calls
Keep it to a minimum. This goes out to all the desis ( South-Asians) because we make loooooong phone calls and mostly the purpose of the telephone call gets lost in the first few minutes and then its all about who did what, said what, when, why and where. That is when you get dragged into it without intention. So beware!
4. Make good use of your time
Backbiting is a result of having nothing better to do. Try not to feel bored because that is when shaytaan tempts us to peep into other people’s lives. Plan your day in the morning, allocating your time to different areas. This will help you use your time effectively, and believe me, you would have so much to do that you would not even have a minute to waste. In sha Allah.
5. Avoid tempting situations
Try to steer clear of bad company, gatherings and events where people do not hesitate to backbite. There are some people you cannot avoid at all. So when such people start backbiting, i always think about the good qualities in the person who is about to be backbitten, and mention them. This calms down the conversation and gives the impression that you are not interested in listening to backbiting.
Ps… Be careful at Iftar parties too
6. Dare to say NO to this sin
This one takes a bit courage in the beginning, but with Allah’s help, it becomes easy later on. When people persist in backbiting, then it is our duty to save ourselves first and foremost, and then advise others. You will have to stop it one day so when it starts, politely say that you will not participate or listen to it, and explain to them about the seriousness of this sin with reference to the Quran and Sunnah.
Hope these tips prove to be useful to our readers. May Allah, Subhanahu Wa Taala, accept all our efforts and help us in staying away from sins. Ameen!